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    permaculturedesigner

    It is always easier to side with the perpetrator. Join the winning team! Although I would say there is deeper neurological patterning attraction going on, not to say there is/is not institutionalization. What I mean by that is that people who have been trauma bonded somehow magnetically attract future NPDs/abusers. I am starting to think ideologies are an externality and that what is really going on is that reinforcement of one set of neural firings of one type of brain attracts a different set of reinforcements in a different brain.

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    Jennifer Armstrong

    +permaculturedesigner I wasn't trauma bonded.  That is a mocern thing, where individualism holds sway.  I was deeplyk, deeply repressed and somewhat schizoid from all of the abuse.

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    +permaculturedesigner My difficulty was that I didn't know the language of emotion, especially as it pertained to Western culture.  In my former culture, if you needed some help for something you would speak to someone senior in authority, with a stiff upper lip )on both parts) and they would help you out.  But the level of emotion I bought to my situation to try to get others' assistance was never right.  I couldn't judge what was a convincint emotional level to indicate urgency and at the same time self-control.  In any case, my project may have been defeated from the start, because of the ideology that I was already "privileged", set up for life by my supposedly lucky origins, and that it was everybody else, not me, who was struggling.  It was very hard for me to get out of the schizoid state.
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  3. This is why a kind of military training is needed, because all actual soldiers get tired, and they know that when this happens, the enemy is more likely to strike from seemingly nowhere. If they are prepared for the unexpected, and can operate i spite of their fatigued state, they are more likely to survive.


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  6. Thing is, you do to a therapist and you self-praise, saying, "Look how I have survived all that they've put me through. I must be pretty good in some ways," and the "therapist" will view that as grandiose, because you are praising yourself immensely just for barely surviving.


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  7. Yeah, that about sums it up. They think they have a better understanding of you, physiologically. But I have found that if you put them under simlar pressure (although less intense) of devalidation, and express an inability to understand what their communication "means', they crumble automatically and very quickly. My physiology enabled me to sustain myself for decades and I did not crumble.


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  9. Narcissists Have You Under Contract - YouTube



    +Jennifer Armstrong
    What kind of training? Self defense is intrinsic human nature that many have been conditioned to ignore. As long as you can identify yourself and the threat posed to yourself, you have all you need to fight, in whatever form that means for each person.
    +Youtube Commentor Well I am not American, so I do not believe that we have everything we need in our "human natures", unformed, uninformed and unshaped. But carry on.
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  10. My experience what that I had experienced sequential attacks, and I could not afford for that to continue. I know it may have seemed to some people that I was the kind of person who could be attacked (if precedent was anything to go on), consequently I had an ethical obligation to myself to return fire, whenever I was attacked, and as soon as possible, no matter how guilty that made me feel. This was very difficult to do, as it was not my instinct to make myself and others feel guilty, but if I didn't make the attacks on me very costly and as public as possible, I would remain where I was, being victim to further attacks.


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