As far as I can tell, it is because for some reason all events in life have to be projected back into the early childhood years. The idea is that adults, as such, cannot be hurt by life events. We can’t really be betrayed, we can’t really be deceived, and fundamentally, above all, adults are not capable of experiencing anything. “Experience” itself is a feature of childhood, and above all an expression of susceptibility to pain.
Implicitly (and this seems a totally unrecognized part of the theory), adult have muted their capacity to experience pain. The meaning of adulthood is that one can no longer experience pain. But the “child within” an experience it.
I can’t really go much further with this without noting that there has been a considerable advancement of slavery in modernity, such that it has now become normalized to have next to no subjectivity at an adult. Perhaps this is because the modern workplace demands, not just desires, a perfect machine. In general this imposed a systematic state of discipline so that any deviation from machinelike attitudes is viewed by everybody as unwelcome. It makes one more noticeable and brings one to harm.
The current psychotherapeutic paradigm is a reflection of Judeo-Christian morals (which Nietzsche called “slave morality”) and the norms of our industrialized societies. The aspect of slave morality expressed in these norms is codified in the idea that there simply cannot be any deviation from the standard line of conformity, unless it is caused by “pain/vulnerability”. In other words, one does not desire to be different from a slave, but if one ends up expressing something outside of the brackets, the only possible cause of this must be “pain”. (In any case “pain” and “childlike vulnerability” go together.)
All of this makes me think (also in line with Nietzsche) that is must be pretty rare for there to be a fully fledged human being, who does not feel that their identity is consolidated in conforming to the system that makes us into machines. But even more to the point, as I have noticed in the past ten years, the ability to believe that one could be non-conforming from a position of strength (not from a position of “pain” generally) has become almost totally diminished.
I have noticed that the new psychologists among us are inclined to create an ideology of vulnerability out of almost anything that one might say. This is alarming, but it reflects a decline in Western culture in terms of self-belief. For instance, only ten years ago, “high pain tolerance” meant that you were able to achieve more than the normal person, perhaps on the athletics field, or in another arena where one’s efforts were required to be elite. But, nowadays, the very same terminology has precisely the opposite meaning in popular culture. In fact it implies habituation to abuse. Rather than being thought an athlete or an exception, those who claim “high pain tolerance” are liable to be thought mentally ill.
So we have come to a very low ebb in contemporary culture. It seems we don’t believe we can be truly “adult” anymore. And if we rise above the norms of convention and conquer our fears, we are not likely to receive any recognition for doing so. Rather, we may be considered acting only on compulsion, and “expressing fearlessness” because “we must be mentally ill”.
The rot has set in, truly.
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